Judgments Being Passed On Working, Single, and Stay-At-Home Moms

Every pregnancy is different. By God's grace, I was able to successfully go through my third one--albeit, the most difficult one--and if I were to apply the same working model that I had with my last two pregnancies, I should have already returned to work by now, full-time! Somehow, I continue to suffer from some of the "after-shocks" of such a difficult pregnancy. Thankfully, I am blessed with the opportunity to stay at home with all of my children since the middle of last year.

Throughout my years of being a mother, people have directly and indirectly passed judgment on me. When I had to continue working after having given birth to my firstborn, I was faulted for not seizing the opportunity to spend quality time with him during his younger years. I was judged for seemingly putting my career first.

Then came the year when I was pregnant with my middle child. I was in the process of getting a divorce during that time as a result of being in an abusive relationship. This time, I was judged for not giving my middle child the chance to get to know his biological father and for allowing my firstborn to grow up without a father.